chad bordes

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Someone recently asked me to describe myself and I was at a loss to find one single metaphor.  I am a chameleon of sorts and I suppose you could say I’m an original. I’m a writer, as I love that particular form of expression.  I consider myself a healer, not of the physical but the emotional kind. Friends and colleagues have deemed to label me an empath for having the uncanny ability of relating to people and speaking the same language when at times not a single word is spoken.   I’m definitely a fighter and I have had my fair share of foibles and struggles. But above all I’m a lover of humanity.


Having toiled away in the corporate world my entire life, my short-lived epiphany was to give back; I removed myself from most social media now it’s my turn to pay if forward.  I’m not a therapist, however I combine an avid intellect with a keen understanding of the human spirit.  My doctrine perpetuates a sense of the humane, that and a deep-rooted desire to help, since my career started as a trainer and much of that time was spent assisting folks through their mental blocks.  


I co-wrote a book with my dad, based on his life called “The Ruination of Dylan Forbes”.  It’s a different kind of book and you’ll have to read it and let me know what the hell it’s all about.   My second soon to be “claim to fame” if you can call it that, is a biopic piece called, “Food, Water, Air and Within”.   The title is still a bit indefinite, since it’s a work in progress. I’m a straightforward individual and cut through the BS; I don’t sugar coat my opinions or my views.   I admire folks like Mike Rowe cuz he’s candid and cuts through the horseshit. I was fucking bummed about Tony Bourdain. He was a was a revolutionary both with thought and word.  His demons won but if he’d talked to someone, maybe he’d still be here today.


Sometimes you don’t need a professional to grasp an understanding of who the hell you are and where you perceive your existence.  It sounds somewhat nonconformist, but haven’t you noticed that when you’re overwhelmed, spiritually, physically, mentally and most definitely emotionally, you’ve felt infinitely better unloading to a friend and sometimes even a total stranger?   It’s after that you realize that there’s light at the end of the tunnel and that you are not alone


It’s ironic that everyone’s connected, yet no-one is connected.   We’ve become recalcitrant, uncaring and many of us have lost our humanity.  Particularly when technology is swallowing us up like quicksand and boasting of social connectivity is of utmost importance in today’s society.  To face adulthood, we need to delve deep within and it’s inherently easier to talk to a stranger who offers solace and gives it to you straight.  Putting a Band-Aid on your issues is the easy thing to do, taking an intimate deep dive where your demons are dwelling is daunting, but necessary.


As I’ve said, I’m not a therapist, not a male Helen Keller, a snake charmer or a Mark Manson (although I wish I was, that guy’s a damn genius and brilliant in his craft).  After reading this you’re probably thinking I’m a Life Coach, but in all honesty, we are all our own life coaches.  We make our choices and live with them, but hell, you sure as shit can have a little assistance along the way.


I’ve worked with individuals and corporations across the globe assisting them to resolve their personal or business issues.  Having been homeless a time or two made me put things into perspective and I figured how to focus on the things that truly matter and remove the shit that doesn’t. Focus on what matters.  The daily talk you have with yourself (and for that matter if you’re not having daily talks, you gotta to start). The people you hang around totally matter as they’re pretty influential. Participating daily in life is more important than you think, because your goals matter. But instead you’re sweating the small shit when that’s the one thing that doesn’t matter.  The only thing that matters in all of this is YOU!


A good discussion can help you overcome your roadblocks.   Even if those obstructions mean you are stuck, puzzled, dazed, foggy (and I don’t mean stoned 😀) or feeling lost and helpless, then let’s start a conversation.  Sometimes that’s all it takes, so reach out, and I’ll be here.

One of my favorite quotes:

Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence. As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexatious to the spirit. If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself. Especially, do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be. And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul. With all its sham, drudgery and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy."

Desiderata by Max Ehrmann

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officiant services

You want your special day to be as special as you are.  I have been performing custom ceremonies for 17 years and can design the exact wedding you have been searching for.  Why chance it to someone without the experience. I also have worked in the events space  and with numerous venues, so it makes it easier on you on your special day.

Why do you do it?

I love being part of the special day.  There is so much energy and love from all the people that you love and that love you back. Being around such a special moment is magical. I am honored to share in such wonderful times and know how important the right person can be when making your decision.  No event to big, no distance to far.  I am here for you!

Will you Travel?

Of course. I love traveling and road trips are my favorite.  I have performed ceremonies in San Diego , Palm Springs, Pasadena, and San Francisco. I am never afraid of adventure.  Having the right person officiate your wedding can make or break your special day. I can travel anywhere and if your interested, please don't hesitate to ask.  

Do you Charge for Consulting?

No way!  First meeting is free. I you to make sure that I am a good fit for you and your special day. Just like going to the doctor and getting a second opinion, I encourage you to shop around and make sure that you find the right fit for your perfect day.

Are you denominational?

No. I am an inter-faith minister.  I perform ceremonies for people of all faiths, I will work with you to customize your day to your exact specifications.  Details matter and I am here for you!

San Diego Public Marriage License

  • The fee for a Public Marriage License is $70

  • Applicants must be 18 years old

  • A blood test is not required

  • There is no waiting period

  • Each applicant must present (1) form of valid photo identification with proof of age (drivers license, passport)

  • If either party has been granted a divorce within 90 days of applying for a new marriage license, a copy of the final divorce decree must be presented at the time of issue. If it has been more than 90 days, the decree is not required, and you need only supply the date of dissolution.

  • The marriage ceremony may be performed ANYWHERE in the State of California

  • California requires only ONE WITNESS be present at the actual ceremony (not when applying for the license)

  • San Diego Marriage License Application


Confidential Marriage License

  • The fee for a Confidential Marriage License is $89

  • Applicants must be 18 years old

  • A blood test is not required

  • No witness is required

  • There is no waiting period

  • Each applicant must present (1) form of valid photo identification with proof of age (drivers license, passport)

  • If either party has been granted a divorce within 90 days of applying for a new marriage license, a copy of the final divorce decree must be presented at the time of issue. If it has been more than 90 days, the decree is not required, and you need only supply the date of dissolution

  • The marriage ceremony may be performed ANYWHERE in the State of California

  • Both parties must sign an affidavit confirming that they have been living together for 6 months or more

  • Only the married couple may obtain official copies of the marriage certificate, except by order of the Superior Court

  • San Diego Marriage License Application

Officiant Services-1 day

This is my rate to come officiate your awesome day.  This includes travel (100 mile radius.)  

If you are interested and would like to hold your date, it is a 50% (Non Refundable) deposit to secure the date.

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Chad was our officiant for our wedding, not only did he travel out of town for us he made the whole experience relaxing and memorable. He made me feel at ease and the wedding went smoothly. I would highly recommend him!
— Brandon and Jessica: October 24, 2014
We hired Chad for our wedding on October 4th, 2014 in Solana Beach, Ca. He was extremely easy to work with and we absolutely loved having him officiate our wedding. We actually had people come up to us later thinking that he was a family friend officiating the wedding for us. He is extremely professional and priced very reasonably for his services. We had to reschedule our preliminary before the wedding meeting a few times and ended up not being able to meet with him in person and it wasn’t even a concern as he was so great with follow up and calls! My husband and I both wanted a very non-denominational or religious related wedding and he was more than happy to do that without hesitation. I would highly recommend Chad Bordes as an officiant to anyone out there looking!
— Nathan and Sara: October 4, 2014
My husband Matt and I used Chad as our officiant when we got married. He was so great! I can’t even describe how his words were so perfect to express how I feel about my now husband. He even gave us a copy of our vows to keep and I read through them every now and then and We still get teary eyed. Thanks so much for being such a big part of our day, Chad!!
— Matt & Allison: July 19, 2008
We are so glad we chose Chad. He was our next door neighbor and we always found him so delightful to talk to and so friendly. When he told us that he performed weddings, it became obvious to Eli and I that he should perform our wedding as well. He was professional, funny, and light all at the same time. We are so thankful that he performed our ceremony and we got the added bonus of him photographing our special day as well.
— Stacie & Eli: March 15, 2008
Chad was the perfect fit for our unconventional day. He was so patient and helpful in setting up our wonderful evening. He truly listened to what we had to say and incorporated our vows and our feel into the wedding. His personality is amazing and he had a calming effect on both my husband and I on our “stress” free day. I would highly recommend using Chad for your day. He helped us create the most amazing, and memorable experience that we will never forget
— Kris & Evelise: August 19, 2007
Full disclosure- Chad is a friend of ours. But please don’t let our bias be taken as favoritism. Chad was with us when we went on one of our first dinners together, so it seemed only natural that 3 years later we would ask him to be the officiant at our wedding. We were so glad we did. Chad was professional and fun, relaxed and accommodating. We explained what we wanted, and he tailored the ceremony exactly the way we hoped for. We really appreciated all he did. Thanks Chad!
— Dave and Tiffany: March 14, 2007
We were very pleased with our choice in Chad. Our gathering was small and intimate and we wanted someone we liked and trusted. Chad did an amazing job at the rehearsal getting everyone organized and helping them remember what to do as well as where to be. Chad has a great demeanor and got along with everyone in our party. I would HIGHLY recommend him for your special day.
— Jeremy & Dawn: June 24, 2006
Chad Bordes was the perfect choice to officiate our wedding. He wanted to create a ceremony unique to who we are. In order to get a feel for our energy as a couple, he spent time with us on a night out, as well as with us individually, to ask questions. He was professional, and kind. He made us feel like our day was as important to him as it was for us. I couldn’t have asked for anything more.
— Matt & Arti: September 17, 2005
Chad was the best choice. We had met several other officiants that didn’t have is passion and energy. He drove all the way up from San Diego a few months before the wedding and discussed the day, how many people would be there, and most importantly how we met and what drew Ryan and I together. He also wrangled us all in for the rehearsal, which I was really impressed with. I was skeptical at first because I had only met Chad a few times before through work, however after having dinner and him really learning about us, Ryan and I knew it was the perfect choice. Our families loved his energy, his smile and his can do attitude. He helped make our big day amazing.
— Ryan & Tara: November 15, 2003
Chad was such a good friend and co worker that it made obvious sense to have him officiate our wedding. We had a small ceremony with close friends and family. We found a church close to where we lived and we were blessed to have Chad officiate our big day. He was so funny and calming to me and my entire family that my Mom decided to use him when she remarried. I would highly recommend Chad. My husband and I have no regrets.
— Brian and Diana: March 23, 2002
Chad was a blessing in disguise. We had 2 of our officiants back out. My wife is catholic and I am not and we couldn’t find anyone to perform the ceremony, even outside of the church. We found Chad through a work connection and he gladly offered his services. He met with us and stayed in constant contact the entire month and delivered an amazing ceremony. What’s really amazing is we were his first client and my wife and I had no clue until after the ceremony! His delivery was spot on and my wife and I were so glad we found him.
— Dennis & Daniella: December 15, 2001


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